On the day that was and would be our wedding anniversary, it is important to me to remember the first great love of my life, Karsten Soltauer. I’m always conflicted about milestones that represent significant days with loved ones after
Love on your people
Five years ago today was the last day I got to spend with Karsten, although of course I didn’t know it at the time. People always think that if they could have a day back to spend with someone who’s
Three Years

There’s a lot of mysticism about the number three and its special role in the universe. Some say it’s the strongest number, because the triangle is the most stable physical shape. That makes a strange sort of sense to me today. Today
Thankful or Grateful?
In a private grief support group on Facebook, we had a recent discussion about the idea of Thanksgiving. A few of the participants said that they couldn’t imagine feeling thankful at this point in their lives. That idea struck me because,
So much good, so much bad
A Vietnamese coworker of Karsten’s used to say: so much good, so much bad. I don’t know what today holds; I only know that the last few days were full of joy for me and brought loss to quite a
The amazing resurrecting lilies!
I didn’t think I was in the mood to do it, but I did it. I got outside right after breakfast (which, by the way, was a waffle with diced mango and kiwi along with my absolute favorite coffee, Bongo